please don’t be impressed

recently i was trying to check out and reschedule appointments at the pediatricians office with my two littles. we had to have a bit of discussion about shot record and rescheduling due to court dates, so it was obvious i was not your average parent. one little was crying wanting another sucker because the color i had chosen wasn’t good enough. the other one, the highly contagious one, kept walking off and touching everything as i continued to reign them back in. it was obvious we were holding up the line. i glanced to the patient lady behind me and said, i am so sorry. she kindly said, “it’s okay, i am just impressed you are a foster mom.” she smiled and moved to another window. i was grateful for her flexibility, but as the day went on the word impressed kept nagging at my soul.

impressed? no please don’t be impressed. i realize she was trying to be comforting or encouraging, but the last thing i wanted her to be was impressed. the very thought of people being impressed by my simple, obedient act of being a foster parents is what has kept me relatively quiet on social media and this blog (until now) about my new normal. the last thing i want is a spotlight on me when it is the children and their stories and struggles that deserve all the attention.

so, i began to think about what i wish non foster parents were instead of impressed.

instead of being impressed – be informed
before i entered this faith journey i was clueless to the staggering statistics. involved in foster care. as i looked at the needs of alabama i was reminded that these are not kids halfway around the world, these are children within a days driving distance of me.  want to learn about the numbers involving foster care in your state? check out this interactive map at the Christian alliance for orphans website – interactive map.

i think the graphic that has impacted me most is another powerful one (below) from the Christian alliance for orphans.  the top number is the number of foster children in each state. the bottom number is the number of church, not people in churches, churches in each state.
knowledge leads to power, conviction and action. what will you do now that you have come face to face with the staggering statistics of children right in your backyard?


instead of being impressed be involved
i love the quote that not everyone can be a foster parents, but everyone can do something to help a foster child/child. this couldn’t be more true. maybe you weren’t called to be a foster parents or maybe you can only foster a limited number of children. that doesn’t mean you have to stop being involved with helping them. did you know most foster children move to their foster home with all of their belonging in a garbage bag?

instead of being impressed, be an encouragement
there is no way i would have made it without the many encouragement God has out in my life.


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  1. Debra and Chester March 16, 2017 at 8:00 am

    God loving words and direction spoken through you Danielle to us….Thank you….Deb and Ches

  2. Jackie Randolph March 20, 2017 at 8:52 pm

    Danielle, I am so glad you heard Gods call in this area of your life. I know the children in your care will have seeds planted that will be there for eternity, what a gift! I also know they are growing you and you are being blessed way more then you thought possible. So happy for you! My prayers are with you!

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